Today, I want to chat about setting boundaries. It's a topic close to my heart, and I think it's incredibly important for us all.I know someone who would drop everything to help others, often putting her own needs on the back burner. It wasn't until she started her recovery journey that she realized the lack of boundaries was taking a toll on her emotional and physical well-being. She was always exhausted, feeling stretched thin, and rarely had time for herself.That's when Emily began to understand the power of setting boundaries. She learned that it wasn't just about saying no, but about respecting her own limits and needs. Emotional boundaries meant that she didn't have to shoulder everyone else's problems; she could offer support without absorbing their stress. Physical boundaries were about acknowledging her comfort with personal space and touch, which varied depending on the situation and the person.The transformation was remarkable. She started to prioritize her well-being and found that she had more energy, less stress, and her relationships actually improved. People began to respect her needs and limits, and she felt more empowered than ever.Setting limits is not about building walls but about creating a healthy balance. It involves understanding your own limits, being clear about what you're comfortable with, and communicating it effectively.And remember, it's equally important to respect the boundaries of others. This mutual understanding fosters healthier, more supportive relationships, which are so crucial in any recovery journey. If someone tells you, “no,” don’t guilt-trip them. It is a boundary to say, “no.”So, my friend, think about your own boundaries. Are they in place? Are they respected? Don't hesitate to redefine them as you evolve. Setting boundaries isn't selfish; it's essential for your health and happiness.I'd love to hear about your experiences with setting boundaries or any insights you might have. Let's keep the conversation going.
Best,
Ben Randolph
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